A version of this essay appeared on 2nd Opinion.
I write this while wearing my boyfriend's white Zara shirt. I decided to put the white Topman v-neck in the laundry basket because I felt it looked, well, dated. It also felt less structured than before. After only three years and wearing it less than twenty times, I am already thinking of disposing that piece of clothing, and wondering what to buy next. Uniqlo, perhaps. Maybe H&M.
See what I did there?
Stop. Stop right there.
“I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together.” – “I Am the Walrus”, the Beatles
When I judge you, I close my mind to what you have to say. I close myself to the chance that you might be right and I might be wrong. For me, you are the epitome of everything that is flawed and ugly and stupid in this world, and whatever you say or do cannot possibly contribute anything positive to me or the world.
HELLO, MY NAME IS EVAN TAN.
I'm a writer and communications professional based in Manila, Philippines. Outside of my regular job, I like to travel, work out, volunteer, watch movies and plays, go to art galleries/ fairs and museums, read books, and eat vegetarian food.
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