You might have heard about (or a permutation of) the popular trolley problem in your Philosophy class.
It goes like this:
A speeding train which lost its brakes is about to hit five people ahead. They won't be able to get out of the way in time. There is, however, one option to rescue all of them: you, the driver, can pull the lever, and redirect the train to another track.
The only problem is that, there's a child playing at the other track, oblivious to the possibility that a train might hit her. Choose to save the five, you kill the girl; choose to save the girl, you kill the five adults.
Who should you save? What is the most ethical thing to do?
A version of this essay first appeared in Adobo Magazine's first-ever Gender issue.
Any gay guy will tell you: it’s not unusual to hear a straight cisgender person ask, “Sino sa inyo ang lalake o babae? (Who's the guy and who's the girl?)"
It’s the straight cisgender gaze at work.
Whereas women have the so-called male gaze to blame for how they are objectified and stereotyped by society (#patriarchy), we gay men have to deal with the powerful outsider's gaze—that is, the framing of our identities and experiences according to how straight cisgender people experience the world.
I have a confession: I am a Gaston apologist.
HELLO, MY NAME IS EVAN TAN.
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